Written by: Rudrapriya TG
If anything this quarantine has taught me, it’s how a lack of structure and a lack of routine have helped me procrastinate in newer ways than before; one of which is obsessing over the number of likes I get on Instagram.
And then I realised no matter how many likes or comments I get, someone always gets 3 times, 10 times, or 300 times more attention online and this is just counter-productive to any progress I make as a person, or as a writer.
First and foremost, the mother of all valuable things, the greatest asset that everyone has been given in life without discrimination is - Time!
So I made a list to remind myself and you, if you’re in the same boat as me, of what we can do with our precious and limited time on this Earth based on these three factors:
Focusing on your physical and emotional well-being
Spending quality time with friends, family and yourself
Investing in yourself
Focusing On Your Physical & Emotional Well Being
No one can take better care of you than you. And I find that whenever I’ve gone down the rabbit hole, that is Instagram, I always come back up feeling blue.
Here’s what I do and hope to do when everything goes back to normal, to appreciate some of the things I took for granted in life.
Getting fresh air: As tired and cliché as this one is, it really helps! Getting some fresh air can clear your mind and lift your spirit up. Try to find five minutes to go to your rooftop; have a little tea party with your family while still practicing social distancing.
Watching the sun rise and/or set: Nature is an artist of its own right. The colours you see, the sounds you hear are so relaxing, but most importantly over time, it transforms you.
Finding your favourite comedian: There’s a million of them and the process of filtering may elevate your sense of humour. I’m currently into Hasan Minaj- his show is seriously funny.
Practicing gratitude/ kindness: Let this be the first thing or the last thing you do in a day. So you can either start the day on a positive note or go to sleep peacefully.
Watching your favourite sport: Everyone should at least find one sport to obsessively follow or if you’re an athletic type then play something. It can inspire and motivate you to stay fit and healthy no matter your age.
Running a marathon: This should go in the bucket list. The sense of accomplishment you get when you finish a marathon can further inspire you to finish everything you start in life. And no one can take that away from you.
Attending open mic nights: Be it a karaoke night or poetry slam night, if your local café hosts this event, don’t miss it. It’s culturally diverse and a fun way to cool off after a long week at work.
Doing some gardening: You don’t need a big backyard for this one. Just a couple of pots with naturally air-purifying plants or some edible ones like Aloe or Mint to encourage you to live green.
Spending quality time with friends, family, and yourself:
It’s okay if you want to be liked on Instagram. It’s also okay, if that’s not happening. But don’t spend so much time obsessing over this, you forget to cherish the limited time you have with your real friends, your loving family and of course, yourself.
These are some of my favourite things to do when I feel like I’m flunking social media, let me know yours in the comment section below.
Doing some cloud-watching or stargazing: Depending on the time of day, I go to my rooftop, spread a blanket on the floor, lie down and let my imagination take me on a magic carpet ride.
Going on a date with your BFF: Fancy stuff aside, having an impromptu water balloon fight or building a fort in your living room, or doing each other’s makeup or mani-pedi is time well-spent!
Watching old, black and white movies with your parents: This is an amazing and fun way of getting to know your parents and about their childhood better, and establishing a good relationship with them.
Knowing your roots: Another priceless item on the docket, tracing your family line all the way back to where it all began teaches you so much about yourself, your origins and also it can give you an idea about your family’s medical history.
Spending quality me-time: If you’re an introvert you already know how precious this time is, but don’t just limit yourself to self-pampering, try to use this time to organize your thoughts and figure out a way to heal your past wounds.
Investing In Yourself:
It’s simple, guys! If you don’t like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to like you? In real or virtual life! And whether we like to admit it or not, that’s what we’re searching for most of the time, no?
And the only way you can do that is when you invest your time in yourself wisely. This could mean learning and unlearning certain habits that could change your life in the long-run.
I’ve compiled a list of activities here that I think will help you do just that, some of which I’ve yet to try for myself.
Joy of Learning A New Language: When I find I’ve learned at least a 100 new words that makes me sound exotic and I just understood a concept that once seemed complicated, I feel so ecstatic. The surge in my confidence is palpable. This keeps me motivated to learn more.
Joy of Learning Anything New: One of my teachers likes to say this a lot, and I must share this pearl of wisdom with you: It’s not magic! You just have to keep working on it till you master it.
Finding a cause to believe in: Find out what moves you; it can be keeping your neighbourhood plastic-free or donating your time and/or money for a local community project. This is a sure-fire way to bring out your passionate side.
Finding your own quirk: Find out what makes you… you. And don’t be afraid if that sets you apart, because that’s the point here.
Finding out if you’re a Marvel fan or a DC fan: Honestly, diving into a Marvel or DC universe can help you realize if your taste is eclectic or singular.
Writing a fan-fiction/ poems of things that you love: You don’t have to be Shakespeare. Being you is enough, besides the idea here is to meet your hero and be part of that world you crave so much while still keeping a firm grip on reality.
Cooking up a storm: Cooking is a basic life skill, same as driving or fixing a light-bulb. Learn all of them. Learn to cook your basic meals and learn to cook something fancy and/or exotic. Just have fun experimenting in the kitchen.
Adopting a pet: For sure, this will teach you to be responsible. But also it will teach you how to love someone unconditionally, maybe even yourself!
Being a connoisseur of things: It can be for tea, or music or wine. This will encourage you to travel more, discover new tastes, and make you look sophisticated. Trip to Napa Valley, anyone?
Working on DIY projects: I usually try and fail at this, but there are so many, many videos online, like 5-minute crafts, that I definitely enjoy watching.
Reading an entire sci-fi series: Nerdy is the new cool, guys. Currently I’ve started with Doctor Who, and I hope to make it to the summit of this mountain this time, next year, perhaps?
Becoming a film-buff or history-buff: I once met someone who was seriously into both, and could talk for hours about a single event in history or about a film with so much passion, it’s wonderfully infectious!
At the end of the day, all this helps me recognize the type of person I am, the type of person I want to be, and how much of this adds to my growth- personally and professionally.
Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.