Written by Rudrapriya T. G.
Adulting can be difficult all on its own without you being too harsh on yourself for not being somewhere you thought you'd be in life by now. Even though you know you're giving your best shot, some days it may feel like your best isn't good enough.
Listen! If you're having one of those days, and you're looking for ways to reassure yourself then you've come to the right place.
Because I'm here to tell you that you're best is better than most. If you don't believe me just yet, here are FIVE signs that you are doing better in life than you actually think!
1. You have financial independence
You have a job that helps you pay the bills; that allows you to buy nice things for yourself and your family; that doesn't let you worry about putting a meal on your table; that allows you to live your wanderlust fantasies; and/or save for a rainy day.
You are able to commute comfortably and occasionally enjoy dining out.
You have a job that allows you to find the time to do the things you love and gives you financial support if/when you need it.
2. You know the value of work-life balance
You know it's a good sign when you leave the office, you leave behind the stress and drama of your job right there; you choose to go home with a clear head, and spend quality time with your family.
Meaning, you don't allow your stress in either sphere of your life to affect your mood, to become less professional at work; and/or to get quickly irritated with your loved ones back home.
You know when to prioritize your career and when to prioritize your personal relationships and you know better than to give up on one to find success in the other.
3. You have one or two reliable friends
When you start to realize that friendships are all about quality and not quantity, your friends' circle will get smaller. But you know you still have one or two friends who'll drop everything and come running when you call. And you are that friend for somebody as well.
When you have someone with whom you can be absolutely and unapologetically yourself, you're already ahead in life. This is where you go for judgment-free conversations; a safe place for you to go when you're feeling vulnerable.
Whether you had a bad day at work or fought with someone you love, or you're dealing with heartbreak or just simply bored and need someone to entertain you, there's a friend you can rely on and vice versa.
4. You have standards
You refuse to compromise on this when it comes to a relationship - whether it is with yourself or with the right partner.
You know what you want or at least not what you want when it comes to dating and love life.
You are not afraid to call them out when they try to pull a wool over your eyes.
They either meet you at your level or not at all. And you don't apologize for it, or let them get under your skin for having standards in the first place.
You are much harder on yourself. You eat whatever you want but practice moderation. Or you allow yourself a cheat day where you can eat what you like without feeling guilty.
You take care of yourself and don't wait around for others to do it for you. Be it health, or dealing with your emotions. You just wake up and slay!
5. You are still growing
You accept the fact that you are flawed but you are still learning to do better and be better.
You try to evaluate yourself by asking questions like how you can do this task better, or more efficiently. You give yourself room for improvement.
You look at the areas you need to work on, and then you go and actually do the work. It can be as simple as stop binge eating or it can be something monumental like getting over the fear of public speaking. Whatever it is, you did it!
You look back at the person you were last year and allow yourself to celebrate the progress you've made so far.
You have goals and you work hard to meet them.
You've made some mistakes in the past, maybe lost someone you loved, been through some experiences that you can't always openly talk about to just anyone but instead of letting these things make holes in your ship to sink you further, you've managed to find the maturity to learn from them. You're ready to take responsibility and strive to make new and better mistakes.
No matter where you are at, don't let the noise out there debunk all the hard work you've done.
Instead of getting overwhelmed by everything you've yet to accomplish in life, pace yourself and try to enjoy the task you're currently working on. As they say, what's yours won't pass by you.